The Last California Cupcake

Today was a gloomy day in California.

The sky was grey and it felt like the whole world was yawning. It was, to put it simply, the ultimate napping day.

Today also marks the final stretch of working at the boutique for the summer. Only 10 days left until I have to say goodbye to this place that taught me the art of sales and conversing with entitled plastic moms. I love my boss. I love my coworkers. They've taught me so much. About life, you know.

As today's weather was muted and dull, it was a perfect day to reflect on this huge new chapter in my life that's about to begin.

How I Got to Where I am Now

I left the American University in Washington, D.C. after a year and a half of feeling out of place. The Land of Politics and Tight-Suited Business Men seemed appealing from far away for a girl who wanted to change the world, but two weeks into my time at AU and I had never disliked any place more. Get ready for a list of generalizations:

  • My school revolved around politics, something I thought I cared about when I was in the minority of liberal thinkers at my Catholic high school. As soon as I attended orientation at AU, I felt out of place. I didn't relate to the community of one of the most politically-active schools in the nation (except for my sorority sisters and close friends, they were my shining light.... Chi O 'til I Die, Yo).
  • The city was transient. Which means that there was no real identity for the population other than mostly everyone was there because they wanted to climb the ranks of governmental, business or non-profit organizations. 
  • The city was political. The biggest crime you could commit in D.C. was being politically incorrect. It was hard to get a lighthearted joke across, and no one watched Adventure Time.
  • The city was limited. Although it may seem like D.C. is one of the culture capitals in the world because of all the embassies, it's really not. I have more of a selection of quality ethnic food here in Orange County than the food available to me in D.C. Also, the population of D.C. can essentially be divided into rich white people trying to network within their tight circles versus the three quarters of D.C. comprised of minority races struggling with the terrible public education system and high crime rates. Also, fashion revolved primarily around how large your formal business wardrobe was. Lastly, I swear to God, this might be my biased California tastes talking, but I wasn't attracted to a single person during my couple of years in D.C. The selection of good-looking men was, in my opinion, non-existent. 

The whole reason I went to AU was to study international relations, something I should have known I wouldn't have liked after four years of participating in Model United Nations in high school. International relations is a cat-and-mouse game: it's all policy. Within the first few days of attending AU, a professor of international relations even confessed to me that the way schools are teaching how to change the world is wrong: It's too much theory, he said, and not enough on how to change the world. Even development is policy-focused. I wanted to study international relations so I could help people, when really the right way for me to help people would be for me to just go ahead and join the Peace Corps. 

I took a leave of absence from AU this past semester not only because I felt out of place, but because I was feeling so much pressure to start my classes for my major and I still wasn't really sure what I wanted to do. You can read my post on the Lala, the publication I write and edit for, for advice I want to give for those of you who are also struggling to find your path. If you think you're lost, you don't know the half of it. I jumped from wanting to be a musician to a criminal justice public defender to a children's art teacher to a nonprofit CEO.... and the list goes on.

But that's life, you know. You have to try everything. I'm glad I'm open to so many possibilities. Life will never be boring for me.

The Next Chapter is A Few Pages Away

As I took my quiet break from work today, silently enjoying my triple chocolate cupcake with milk, I watched San Clemente. That will be one of my favorite memories from the summer. Sitting by myself, watching San Clemente and sipping on milk, thinking of static, anxious about nothing, no deadlines or work to be completed. That's such bliss to me, and when those moments come, few and far between, they're so beautiful.

In two weeks, my life will be rekindled after this 8-month hiatus at home. I've hardly been intellectually stimulated. I am dying for schoolwork and someone to challenge me. I am dying to feel my mind racing again. I'm going to be constantly challenged at every moment of every day, because I'll be struggling to complete French sentences in a moment's notice with correct syntax and grammar.

As I sit here, idly enjoying this triple chocolate cupcake, there could not be a more symbolic calm before the storm. The next time I'll be completely idle again will hopefully come on a glorious day when I have no work to do and I'm sitting outside in Paris, enjoying a cafe and croissant. But it's OK. I am so excited for this storm. I need some adventure in my life again, some intellectual stimulation, some challenges. Looking forward to it all. xx

Les Préparations

Preparing to move to another country is no walk in the park.

In order to live in France, you have to overcome a variety of legal and logistical obstacles to prove your French worthiness. An example of the mundane tasks to complete includes figuring out how you're going to continue taking your American meds, finding a roof over your head, translating important documents to French for the notorious prefecture visits and most importantly, obtain a visa.

The Visa

Surprise surprise, this little treasure came TODAY in the mail!

I know it seems like just a little sticker in a book, but in fact, this visa is the symbol of my new legal life in Paris. I can live there for a whole year. HOW EXCITING.

The process for getting the visa isn't terribly difficult. Check out your French consulate's website for the documents you have to put together before making an appointment. 

Visiting the consulate in LA was nerve-wracking. But exciting, because it was my first opportunity in a long time to see if I could speak French well enough to trick people into thinking one of my parents was French or something. 

I dressed to impress, of course. 

Well, my French didn't flow as easily as I hoped; I was so nervous. But I could tell the guy processing my papers appreciated it. He even responded to me in French!!! I was flattered, but this probably wasn't a very good idea as now I'm clueless as to the next steps I'm supposed to take with the OFII once i'm actually in France. (LOL still too flattered to care.)

Updates on My Housing Sitch, If You Care

I've been trying to find housing through the American University in Paris for my first semester in Paris. I ideally wanted to be with children, because I love kids and I just relate to them better than the adults in this world who are constantly wearing poker faces and miscommunicating their feelings with tricky words loaded with hidden meanings. Kids are just easy. They're real. And they're fun to practice the language with.

Anyhow, I finally got my housing placement today: I got placed with a French family (WOOHOO!), which is great news for my French!!! I'll be living with a French mom and pop and their 18-year old son (oh la la) and another student at the American University of Paris. We'll both get our own rooms and private bathrooms.

And the icing on the cake? The family's apartment is located in the 16th arrondissement of Paris. AKA, diplomat and ambassador haven. All of Paris' wealthiest find their homes here. It's an absolutely stunning and totally safe area of Paris; parks abound and the Bois de Boulogne, Paris' largest park and outdoor haven, is a few minutes away.

**Heaven is a place on earth with my home stay family.......**


T-20 days until the big move. Can't wait. Longing and dreaming of Paris every day... xx

Finding Your Parisian Crib

To live the dream of waking up every morning in Paris, beautiful Paris, is something worth chasing, at least to me. 

But, before I go, I've got to secure a roof over my head and a bed for my sure-to-be-tired feet. 

Finding housing options in the City of Lights can seem daunting, but have no fear. There's a space, a nook, and a cranny for everyone who seeks housing in Paris with a determined eye and heart.

Ladies and gentlemen, I present to you the scientific findings of my Parisian housing research.

Housing Options

Chambre de Bonne: Literally translated to "maid's quarters," this housing situation is what you'd expect from the name: very small studio-ettes located on the highest floor of apartment buildings. This article accurately portrays just how small these living spaces can be. Very important to note: living in a chambre de bonne means you may have to share a toilet and a shower with other tenants on the floor, and that your kitchen may be a couple of hot plates. The biggest pro (ding ding ding) is the affordability of the place. You can't beat the cost of rent for a chambre de bonne in Paris, which usually ranges around 450€ to 600€. So, although very small, these tiny apartments may find their way to your heart and be "home" for a student on a budget someday. 

A typical chambre de bonne, usually 90-135 square feet. 

A typical chambre de bonne, usually 90-135 square feet. 

Homestay: Living in a homestay is an attractive option for a number of reasons. If you're nervous about living away from home, a homestay situation will allow you to integrate into a family away from home. Also, homestay programs are oftentimes cheaper than finding an apartment, and you don't need to worry about furniture and sometimes cooking, cleaning, or laundry. Also, living in a homestay can prove to be a more culturally-enriching experience than living with other people who speak your language. It's a great option for the traveler who fully wishes to immerse him or herself in another culture and language, and I guarantee you will pick up the language more quickly than if you were living with English-speaking roommates. If you become close enough with your host family, they may invite you out to participate in activities or trips (woohoo!).

My experience as a host family for an Indian Exchange student. He really become a part of the family!

The negative aspect to a homestay is, of course, you lose a large chunk of your independence. You are subject to the rules of a family that's not your own, which may include curfews, house rules, etc. Also, you will have to make an active effort to meet other English-speaking travelers if you would like to make fellow expat contacts. This can be done easily, however, through language or academic classes, Meetup groups, and websites dedicated to organizing expatriate events (like Expatica). If I can give you one piece of advice to kick off your homestay to a great start: please don't forget to bring a gift/token of appreciation for the family.

To enroll in a homestay program, ask your school or university first if they have homestay placement services. This is a great option as usually the institution has partnerships with certain families that are known to be safe and have provided excellent experiences to other students. 

Other independent homestay placement services include Homestay in Paris and Homestay Booking. 

My family hosted an Indian exchange student several years back. An amazing cultural learning experience! 

Larger/Shared Apartments: If you're studying abroad through a university/college/language school, usually these institutions will offer to place you in either apartments with shared roommates or by yourself. Contact your university when you've decided which option best suits you.

There are reasons, however, not to go through university housing placement services. I, for one, would rather live with French-speaking girls my own age as opposed to American gals. Nothing against my people--I'd just rather be exposed as much as possible to the French language and culture as possible. As foreigner trying to find your own apartment, you have a couple of options:

  • Classified Ads: Fusac, Pap, and SeLoger, and even Craiglist for Paris all have classified ads of Frenchies trying to rent out space. You deal directly with other people in coming to an agreement, which may require French language capabilities.
  • Apartment Listings: These websites are exclusively focused on listing apartments for sale in France. Examples include French Century 21, Paris Rental, and Lodgis.
  • Vacation/Long-Term Rental Agencies: Some agencies provide a certain selection of apartments that are usually fully furnished. You can take a look at the apartments that these agencies list on their websites (Perfectly Paris, Haven in Paris, and Paris Rental). 
  • Word of Mouth: Got a friend or family member who lives in Paris? If they can ask around for you, they may be able to find an apartment with other Parisians, allowing you to skip the roommate search process. 
  • Home Swap: Ever watched the movie "The Holiday?" Well, home swapping is actually a reality for many people who want a break from their own country or lifestyle. Although it may be a long shot that someone will want to give up their apartment for an extended period of time, it may be worth checking out the Parisian Craigslist every so often to see if someone wants to swap their chic and furnished apartment for your home for several months. The best part is it's totally free housing without giving up your home elsewhere. 

I've included pictures of my own apartment in Paris for your viewing pleasure below. My family currently rents out this apartment to vacationers through the Perfectly Paris rental agency, although I will be moving into the apartment in the spring. 

Fully furnished apartments come with all basic amenities you'll need. My own apartment for rent on

My "Luxurious Laborde" fully furnished apartment for rent in the 8ème arrondissement. 

If you're interested, visit the Perfectly Paris site and select "Luxurious Laborde" to book in advance. The apartment is located in the 8ème arrondissement, in the heart of Paris and a 10-minute walk from the famous Champs-Elysées.

The apartment also comes equipped with a variety of amenities, including French cable TV, Wifi, free long-distance phone calls, and easy access to metro lines. What more could you ask for in Paris? ;) 

In case you were wondering where I will be seeking a roof over my head for the fall, I've decided on the homestay option. 

It makes sense for me: I'm moving to Paris to hopefully one day secure a job in this beautiful city, and with this dream comes the possibility of settling down and having a family. It would truly benefit me to see the French family dynamic and immerse myself in the French culture as much as possible. 

For others, who see Paris as more of a transient travel experience, a homestay may be a hindering option in regards to independence. 

For a gal who plans to live in France for a while, however, this makes perfect sense. 

I'll be updating you on my homestay adventures to come. xx